Facts, faith and Deaf church.

Astrophysicist Dr. Neil DeGrasse Tyson was asked in an interview with TIME magazine, “What is the most astounding fact you can share with us about the universe?” His answer is 3 minutes long and well worth a watch. Click here to do so before reading on:

The most astounding fact.

Last sunday, Smiling Flower, Granny and I went to a deaf friendly church for the first time. We sat on the left at the front, right by the interpreters who signed everything that went on with real skill and emotion. Smiling flower was awestruck to be in the presence of such proficient signers. I was firmly shaken from holding her hands, even her arms, so I held her hips whilst she stood doing a little ‘i’m so excited’ jiggle as her own small hands flew around  furiously, trying to keep up with the lady she was watching. The concentration and pleasure on her face was immense.

During one of the worship songs some flag wavers also appeared. Normally such exuberance would send me running for a monastic and silent retreat. But as I watched Smiling Flower, she was again mesmerised by the beauty of the  shimmering pale gold silk that was flying through the air. The colour reminded me of a sunset I once saw in Portugal. I was standing on a cliff edge, looking out over an unusually calm Atlantic ocean – a liquid gold reflecting the setting sun. And here in deaf church, watching all the activity through the stunning blue eyes of my daughter I was able to momentarily put aside my struggles and blind spots and prejudices and see the world, what those with faith call creation, come alive for one of the most important people in my life.

In those moments, at the tender age of two and three quarters, I believe Smiling Flower felt connected, relevant, a participant.  Just like the astrophycist suggests we all can. Whether this was just within the church or whether she also felt that in relation to God – I don’t know. Maybe one day she’ll be able to tell me.


We didn’t expect that….

There is a new little boy in the world. He is something of a surprise. He is smiling flower’s brother. He came 6 ½ weeks early. Maybe he was keen to meet her. Like smiling flower, he is spending his first few days in the neonatal unit, being fed with a naso gastric tube. Like


DLA (or things that are free but not free.)

Disability Living Allowance (otherwise known as the form needing Dastardly Lengthy Answers) has been revisiting our household. We filled in our first form when smiling flower was 3 months old. Now she is two we are being reassessed. The form is HUGE! Typically, I received it a few months ago, misread the opening letter and


Were you smacked, cajoled or reasoned with?

‘A child without discipline is, in a way, a lost child. You cannot have freedom without discipline.’ Ricardo Montalban (Mexican Actor) A few weeks ago, smiling flower turned the magical age of two. She had a horrible virus so, sadly, the event passed somewhat unmarked. However, it is now official: we are entering the era


How many have you got??

Someone once said you shouldn’t have more children than you have car windows.  I find this highly surprising. Most cars have 6 windows, 7 if you include a sunroof. I firmly believe you should try to avoid being outnumbered by your children and more than 2 takes the challenge to a whole new level! This


Dogs for deaf kids…

Learning BSL can bring out strange behaviours. Recently, I have caught myself not just signing to my husband and child, but also to our cat – Sox.  Upon confessing this behaviour to my husband, he sheepishly confirmed that he has been doing this too. It seems we both instinctively felt that our  inquisitive, naughty and


Its a community thing…

Toni Morrison, a nobel prize winning novelist once said ‘you need a whole community to raise a child.’ She raised two children on her own whilst winning constant acclaim for her writing. She has my respect. I have one child and I honestly don’t know how I would have got this far without my husband,


Late April Moments …

Coming back into the lounge at tea time to find smiling flower carefully picking out strands of spaghetti from her bowl and gently placing them one by one in her hair…. She loves spaghetti and seemed to want to keep it there all evening… Giving her a bath and found myself laughing as she tried


7 years and counting…

This week, my husband and I celebrated an anniversary. 7 years since our first date and 4 years since our engagement. It was a glorious spring day – sunny and warm – just like the day seven years ago when he took me walking in the Chilterns before nervously holding my hand in a local


We went a conferencing…

My brother took this picture. He called it ‘and the fog rolled back’. Ten days ago, Pete, Smiling Flower and I, attended the first ever UK CHARGE conference. We drove there feeling nervous and tired. We drove home feeling challenged, equipped, fired up, reassured, emotional, amazed at those we met… and more tired! Overall, for